My dad gave a great speech at my sisters wedding a few years back, and he said something that has always stuck with me:
“Life is like a game of golf: It is not all fairways and greens. Sometimes, you will hit it in the rough and you have to decide if you gamble a shot where maybe disaster will happen or you can hit it safely back into the fairway and eliminate your loss while you make it to the green.” It is no news flash that ADULTING is hard. LIFE is hard. Everyone has their own Sh*t they have to deal with.. no person (that I know at least) is living free without some form of struggle. When hearing that life is like a game of golf, it makes sense. You have to examine where your ball is in play at THAT moment. It is your in the moment experience where you are able to make the decision to play reckless or play smart and get where you want to go. I HATE being told “just let things go and you’ll follow the right path.” It makes my hair stand on end for some reason. It just sounds like an excuse to not deal with where you are in life at this moment. It lets you take passenger to your life. To me that feels like gambling with risk. I am a determined individual, if there is something I want I will find a way to get myself there and make it happen. I hit my ball into the fairway and keep playing through. I am the driver for my life, and I refuse to take passenger. Essentially, I am a “do-er” I have a hard time just sitting and believing that my life will miraculously do what I hope it will, I am not willing to take the gamble. There are times in life when it feels like the walls are closing in and you just want to throw your hands up and scream “I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO” and you want someone else to pick up the pieces, tell you what to do, and push you forward. As nice as that option sounds I think that takes the beauty out of life. Is it easier? Heck ya. Is it what will make you stronger and make you see what YOU want? nope. You have to look at ‘where your ball lies’ and think about what you want for yourself. Understanding where you are is an art form of self reflection. You have to analyze your own motivations and emotions, as well as an understanding of how they are going to affect the decisions you make. If you are able to figure out what is best for you: your wants/needs you can hit the ball back into the fairway, even if you mess up it can be demotivating, causing fear and anxiety; only you can look at it as normal and incredibly valuable knowing you faced the troublesome spot and gave it your all. Like golf, life is a humbling game that can only be played well if we understand our own weaknesses and tendencies. Life is an intricate game. Play it well.
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